Just an update

So, some good, some not so good here.

Good:
- Sarah started second grade this week.  She has a new teacher, which is actually unusual for her program.  The previous one is moving out of the country, so we have somebody else now.  So far, Sarah seems to like her.  I liked her quite a bit when I met her last week at "sneak a peek at your seat" day.  I'm hoping this is a great year for her.

- Sean starts pre-K next week.  He would have started this week, but his school does a gradual entry.  In my opinion, it's too gradual.  I get that there are kids who have never been to school, but how on earth is a half hour with a parent one day and an hour with a parent another day going to prepare them for a regular 2 1/2 day without a parent next week?  We had our first day yesterday, which was more of a parent orientation than anything.  He was nervous, but he was fine once we entered the classroom.  He happily went to the classroom assistant and did a craft while I sat with the parents and went over everything.

- Sarah has gotten more adventurous with her food.  She has taken more interest in pizza lately, and she is eating some regular textures in her meal.  She loves diced cucumbers dipped in ranch dressing, pretzel sticks, and today she tried peas.  She's had fork-mashed peas before, but she likes them at a regular texture too.  She seems to find utensils unnecessary, though, so I sent off an e-mail to her feeding therapist to see whether or not I need to address that.  At the moment, I'm not stressing too much over it.  I think we just won't be serving those to her in public.  It is nice, and I'll admit a bit weird to me, to see her actually chewing food.  She had been getting around it with fork-mashed food, but she can't with regular textured food.  I am still dumbfounded to see her put food in her mouth and chew it.  She's slower than kids her age should be because it's still so new to her, but I'll take it.  She couldn't do it at all before the clinic, so I'm really proud of her!

- Sarah has gotten SUPER brave lately in general.  We went to Sesame Place last week and she rode everything.  The roller coaster, the flying fish, the swings, the teacups (with Daddy and Sean because Mommy HATES that ride), and anything else she could.  This time last year she couldn't work up the guts to ride the flying fish, and this time she wanted to ride it by herself.  Sean was too tiny to ride without an adult (or teen) companion, so I made her ride with me.  She was mad, but got over it.  There were no tears over rides, and she did great.  She got to hug Elmo, Abby, and Super Grover too.  There was a meltdown in the bathroom I'd like to publicly apologize to the entire Philadelphia area for having to hear, but otherwise she was really good.

Not So Good:

- Sean's school moved him from morning pre-K to afternoon pre-K at the last minute.  I was furious, especially because I've had to re-vamp quite a few things.  The kids go to different schools, and they get out at the same time.  They are about 20 minutes apart if I had to guess, so afternoon activities are becoming difficult to schedule since I haven't mastered the art of being in two places at once.  I tried to see today if I could pick Sarah up and be home in time for Sean's bus (since he wasn't on it yet due to gradual entry), and I arrived when his bus did.  That's cutting it too close and I'm not about to risk it.  If I have to pick Sarah up, I'm going to have to do it early.  Anyway, the reason they moved Sean was because of the educational goals on his IEP.  The 4's special ed class only meets in the afternoon, and it made more sense to put him in the afternoon for this reason.  I get that, but why nobody figured this out before last Friday is beyond me.  He's learned so much over the summer that I'm wondering how much he'll need the special instruction anyway.

- Breakfast for Sarah has become World War III.  Sarah seems to not like oatmeal too much, which I can handle, but she doesn't like any other breakfast foods either! The booger asks for pancakes, I think that's likely because Sean eats them frequently, and then acts even more ridiculous than she does with oatmeal.  I can do the protocol until we're both blue in the face and she just doesn't care.  I think she actually thinks up ways to avoid oatmeal in her sleep.  Anyway, her psychologist (not part of KKI at all) suggested I give up the battle and just give her a non-breakfast food (sorry, Dad).  So I think tomorrow's breakfast will be mac and cheese.  That should make breakfast more peaceful.

Anyway, time to share a few photos.

having some pizza the other night

waiting for the bus on the first day

more waiting for the bus

trying to get away from the annoying Mommy with the camera

riding a ride on our recent vacation

Follow-up #2

So, I came in with some questions.  Thankfully, Sarah is doing pretty well overall.  She's growing well, and is generally compliant during meals.  We have successfully added mac and cheese (only Chef Boyardee or Velveeta, she hates Kraft because it's so dry) and creamed corn to her list, both at regular texture, and the team was pleased.  It was nice to say hi to people we hadn't seen in a while as well.

Anyway, we are struggling with breakfast.  I don't have a preferred "go-to" main course for her right now.  Oatmeal is pretty touch and go.  Pancakes, she thinks she likes, but struggles with every time.  This morning she begged for pancakes and it was AWFUL.  I think part of the problem with pancakes is the texture, and the way KKI got them down for her, they aren't remotely like normal pancakes.  I asked about cutting normal pancakes up really small and having her dip them in syrup.  They liked this idea and suggested I present this at snack time, one bite at a time.  They said french toast sticks might be easier.  I don't have any of those in the house, but she is good with a fork and might be able to manage with pancakes.  We'll see.

They said we can start adding regular textured foods to her meals if she is doing well with them at snack time.  Since she DEVOURS cucumbers with ranch dressing, I think a small volume of those might go into her meal sometime soon.

I need to call her allergist soon and see about introducing eggs since her skin test showed a weak positive.  If she can eat scrambled eggs okay and decides she likes them, that's another breakfast option.

So, it looks like we have some experimenting to do in the future.

For those keeping track, Little Miss is 4 ft 1 inch, and weighs 56 pounds.  What a big girl!

It's been too long...

I guess part of it is that there really isn't much to tell.  For the most part, Sarah is eating well.  She isn't really giving me a hard time most days, and nothing much is going on.  She finished school on June 8, and today she started summer school.  Or, "extended school year", specifically.  Four weeks of mornings with only one kid.  Pretty nice for me.

Summer has been relatively uneventful.  Just hanging around, going to therapy, of course, and we did spend two days at parks.  One was a local park with a feeding clinic friend, and another was at Sesame Place, Sarah's favorite place in the world.  The kids really love it there, and it's worth the two-hour drive since Sarah has such a nice time.  She got to dance in the parade when we went, but the little booger deleted the video from my phone before I could get it off the phone and uploaded anywhere.

I did have surgery two weeks ago, but it was just a hernia repair.  I'm still a tad sore from time to time, and I have to remind myself not to strain myself, but I'm recovering well otherwise.

Sarah is on a water-drinking kick.  For anyone who knows her, that's kind of new.  She would normally only drink it begrudgingly.  She still loves her milk the best, but she seems really into drinking water now.  I don't know why that's so interesting to her now, but we're going with it.

She has been very independently lately.  She likes to dress herself, and heaven forbid anyone open a door for her.  She will slam it shut so she can do it herself.  Drives me bananas, but I suppose it's better than her refusing to do anything for herself.

Oh, and both kids started swimming lessons recently.  Sarah is going to a special needs place and loving it.  Sean is at the Y and is terrified.  He is getting better, though.  All I ask of Sean is that he listen to his instructor since I know he's going to be scared anyway, and he did better at his last lesson.  I hope he does well tonight.

Quick billing vent.  I finally got a bill for our stay.  Okay, fine.  We were supposed to be on a payment plan for our portion of the bill, which thankfully wasn't a ton compared to what we would have had to pay had we lost our lawsuit.  I called because it was for the full amount, and they had "no record of us being on a payment plan." Um, seriously? Anyway, they were really nice about it and we got ourselves on a payment plan, but what a pain in the butt.  I would have made payments earlier, but I wasn't going to be randomly send checks that would land in oblivion.  Ugh.  Is it just me, or does everywhere you go for anything health-related seem to have people screw up the billing?

That's all for now.  Waiting for Little Miss to get off the bus.  I hope she had a good day.

Recital time!!!!

Okay, feeding is going well overall.  We're still having the occasional battle, but we seem to be in a groove lately and are rarely fighting negative behavior.  We have added creamed corn to her food list.  She's making more of an effort to move food around her mouth, and she enjoys her regular texture snack.  She'd prefer it to always be cucumbers in ranch dressing (and we can hold the cucumbers if we like, ha ha!), but I can generally talk her into at least taking a bite or two of other things.  I find it helps a great deal if her brother is having a snack at the same time because he's a great model for her, although the boy doesn't like ranch dressing at all.  Seriously, he spit out the cucumber after he dipped it.  Too funny!  Her daily snack isn't as daily as I'd like, but she had an ear infection early last week and was too miserable to deal with chewing.  She is okay, now, though.

What I really want to talk about, though, is the dance recital.

Wednesday was our dress rehearsal.  I was stressed big time getting there.  I'd picked Sarah up from school because of how late her bus drops her off.  I stopped at the Wendy's right by her school to pick up dinner for Sean and me, and I had the worst time at the drive through.  There was no line, but the person at the drive through couldn't hear me.  I don't know if the speaker wasn't working right, or she doesn't hear well or what happened.  I was pretty frustrated, though, and I ended up having to give my order THREE times.  I ended up with the wrong drink, but I'm surprised that was the only thing wrong with my order.

Anyway, I ran around like a crazy woman trying to get the kids ready, bathroom visited, Sarah's hair up (just a ponytail this year, I decided) costumes packed, dance bags double-checked, camera bag packed, car loaded. We did not get to the rehearsal on time, but neither did most people.  Thankfully we were there in plenty of time to start.  I got the kids in costume okay, and that went fairly well.  The dress rehearsal, as usual, was a bit rough.  Dances had to be repeated (although, for me, only the family number, understandable considering it was the first time we've all performed it together).  However, the best part was, SARAH DID HER DANCES!!!! She always dances with an instructor on stage, but this year she really just need one for focus.  She did so well at the rehearsal I was scared to say anything here or on Facebook because I didn't want to jinx it.

It was the usual screaming and running around to get everyone ready for the recital last night.  Add the horrible storm going on outside, and it was extra stressful.  We still got to rehearsal earlier than planned, which was good because Little Miss was being a major pain about putting on her costume.  She was in major bossy mode, and wanted to bark orders at her brother, rather than just listen to Mommy and get her darn costume on.  I was furious with her, and at one point I said to her "What needs to happen to get you into your costume?" UGH  Finally I told her she couldn't wear her crown (the headpiece) without the costume.  That seemed to satisfy her.  Good heavens, had I realized that, I would have opened with the crown argument!  Of course, I ran into the oh so fun "nosy kid" issues last night.  A child from my son's class who doesn't really know Sarah and her issues asked why she was wearing a pull-up (we normally use diapers but we're all out and I snagged a few pull-ups from my parents' house the other day).  I normally don't put her in pull-ups or diapers much, but I was not risking her having an accident during the recital.  Anyway, since the kid was only 3 or 4, I went with the simple explanation.  I told her it was because I didn't want Sarah to have an accident.  I was happy that she was satisfied with the explanation because I was not in the mood to discuss further.  Don't get me wrong, I don't have a huge problem with the kid asking, she's just a little girl, but sometimes I just hate having people notice.  Thankfully the kids who are actually in Sarah's class are really good with her.  They're pretty helpful and seem to understand her.

Later that night, Sarah ripped the flowers off the front of her costume.  You couldn't really tell on stage, and to be honest, whatever.  I wasn't thrilled about it, but there wasn't anything I could do about it.  Seriously, though, other than refusing initially to put her costume on, that's about all she did wrong the whole night.  I can deal with that.  She was so cute when it was time to line up for the finale.  She was holding hands with this one girl, R, who is her age.  I'm not sure if they were told to do so, or did it of their own accord.  Either way, R has always been pretty helpful with her, and she and her sister N (also in Sarah's dance class) came to Sarah's birthday party.

Oh, and I won the "cool mom" award, I think, at least with the little kids.  I spent a fair amount of time Thursday printing out coloring pages of various characters to entertain the kids.  At the dress rehearsal, there were a ton of fights over coloring books, and I figured if we had a ton of different pages (and in popular characters), things would go much better.  I had Dora, Diego, Sesame Street, Wonder Pets, and Disney Princesses for the kids to color.  I think almost everything got colored, and I'm glad.

Sean did awesome as well!  He seemed kind of stage shocked at the dress rehearsal, but he was basically fine last night.  There were two kids (sisters) from his class last night that didn't show up to the recital.  I have no idea why, but I hope they are okay.  Anyway, he did very well in both of his dances, and even adapted to the missing dancers.  One of them was his partner for ballet.  Another girl was the other sister's partner, so at the last second the teacher told Sean and the other girl to dance together.  They did, which I think is pretty good for their ages (four and five).  He was so cute.  He wore this adorable dragon costume for ballet and let out a yawn just before ballet, and the whole audience just melted.  I'm importing the video right now, so hopefully I can get some of the video onto YouTube soon.  Anyone at the rec reading this, please order the DVD.  We work very hard to make it look nice, and the quality should be much better this year.  If you didn't order one last night, there is still time to go ahead and order it.

In other news, she has done great with her brother.  She's been getting things for him when I ask, and the other night, they traded v-readers.  It's this e-book reader they both have.  I was in the other room folding laundry, so I didn't hear the conversation, but I came back and saw they had traded.  I guess each one wanted the book the other one was "reading."  I wish I'd been present for that conversation.  All I know is there wasn't any screaming involved, and they proudly told me they were playing with each other's v-readers.

How's that for a happy blog update? :)

Update from yesterday's oral motor appointment

So, yesterday we went to KKI in the morning for an oral motor appointment.  I was frustrated getting there because the kids were a pain getting out the door, and then I hit several red lights on the way.  Add several stupid drivers and pedestrians walking/driving in front of my car, and we were late.  It was in a different building, just one block over, but the entrance wasn't where I thought it was, so that threw me off.  I also hadn't explained it to Sarah as well as I thought I had, so I had to deal with a whining, teary Sarah too.  She saw the building where we normally have appointments, and kept telling me to go there.  Anyway, despite the rough trip, we managed to get there in enough time to still get our appointment.  Barely, but I guess what matters in the end is that we still got our appointment.

It's a good thing, too, because Sarah did GREAT! We were asked to bring five foods that we'd decided would be a good idea at Sarah's follow-up appointment to try and see if we can up the texture of her meals.  Now, we are not yet changing the texture of her meals because her speech pathologist needs to discuss how our appointment went with behavioral psych, but I'm optimistic that there will be a change soon.  Anyway, we brought french fries (this kind, perfect for an appointment because they were microwavable), cheese (Kraft singles), cucumber slices, canned carrot slices, and a banana.  I also brought ranch dressing because Sarah LOVES to dip diced cucumber into ranch dressing.  She ate quite a few pieces of diced cucumber at my Mother's Day lunch at Outback this past Sunday and did very well with it. She chewed them well and didn't gag.

Anyway, so we spent a lot of time helping Sarah put the foods on her teeth, reminding her to chew them at least five times as it's still a habit of hers to swallow things whole, etc.  Her speech pathologist and I took turns helping Sarah properly place the foods in her mouth.  We had a few minor gagging incidents, but no vomiting at all.  She spit once or twice, and a few times the food fell out of her mouth because she moved her tongue wrong.  Overall, though, she did awesome!  She chewed for probably half an hour and didn't seem to tire.  She also seemed to really enjoy the food.

The recommendation is one snack per day of regular textured foods.  We're obviously not talking sourdough pretzels, or nachos, or peanut brittle (she's allergic anyway), but foods like the ones we brought.  We are to continue the oral motor exercises at least three times per week with the oral motor tools.  Once her meals are about half regular textured foods, we can stop using them.  I can handle that for sure.

As far as meals are going, it's still kind of touch and go.  Abby in Wonderland became a tad less motivating for her, so we changed DVD's again.  I got a few at the library, and oddly enough, she's hooked on this one.  It's awfully cute and has a lot of cute Cookie Monster videos, including "A Cookie is a Sometimes Food."  I find it pretty funny myself.  Anyway, she's lately declared war on oatmeal.  The problem started with me getting a generic brand.  This stuff is definitely thicker than what she's used to eating.  She'd been handling it okay, but I guess our latest box of it must not be going so well.  Add to it that she was pretty annoyed on Sunday that Daddy was feeding so Mommy could have a break on Mother's Day, and it wasn't pretty.  She had gagging issues with it Monday and Tuesday too.  So, I said to heck with it and bought the brand name.  Really, the savings isn't worth it if she really doesn't like it.  I'm picking my battles here.  Unfortunately, I think I'm going to have to be stricter with her to show her she's going to have to suck it up and deal.  She gave me a rough time this morning.  She wanted me to heat it up more in the microwave.  I'd been doing that with the other stuff, thinking that may have been the issue.  I gave in today (stupid and off protocol, I know), but I won't do that again as it didn't improve her behavior.  Then, it was her usual ridiculousness of refusing to feed it to herself.

On the bright side, though, we do seem to have gotten back some foods that were giving me a fight.  Green beans were causing an argument, and now she's doing fine with them.  Peaches were 50/50, and now she almost always eats them without fighting me.  Beef stew goes very well too.  I did a taste session on fork-mashed cheeseburger.  She did okay, but I don't feel comfortable putting it in a meal yet.  I did one on lasagna, and I feel that way about the lasagna too.  We've done a couple with creamed corn, and she's doing okay with it, but I think we need a couple more sessions before I feel confident enough to put it in a meal.

Oh, and for those keeping track, I'm STILL waiting on the e-mail with the protocol to deal with the self-feeding issue.  Tomorrow it will have been an entire month since our clinic appointment.

In non-feeding-related news, and this is NOT for the squeamish to read, Sarah has pooped in the potty TWICE in the past week.  TWICE!!!!  Thursday, she'd been gassy for a while, and I had meant to put a diaper on her.  I didn't get to it, but I caught her in a weird squat.  I asked her if she was pooping and she said "yes."  I asked her if she wanted to try and poop in the potty, and she said "yes."  I ran her to the bathroom at top speed and noticed she had only gone the tiniest bit in her pants.  I sat her on the potty and figured we'd see what happened, but didn't hold out much hope.  We'd done this before, only to have nothing happen and then she'd go in her pants or a diaper five minutes later.  I saw she was trying, but struggling.  I remembered from training her brother, that a stool under her feet sometimes helps.  I slipped a stool under her feet to support them, and started to coach her.  I said "Push, push, push with your tush!" I'm sure anyone who doesn't have kids likely thought I'd flipped my lid, but whatever.  It WORKED, though!  She did it and was SO proud of herself.  I showed her when she was done and told her she'd done such a good job and that Mommy was so proud of her.  I cleaned her up and let her pick a prize from my stash of dollar store stuff I keep for these occasions.  Well, these and for lost teeth.

She didn't poop again until Monday night.  She got one out of four poops in the potty (I think she'd been a bit backed up and was clearing it, so I guess it's understandable), but I'll take it.  She got another prize for doing it.

I don't think we're going to push the bowel training too much until school is out, but anytime we can get her into the bathroom when she has to poop, you'd better believe we're going to do it!

Oh, and dance pictures came in.  Here they are.  I took the pics with my phone and used an app to make it look like I scanned them, so the scans could look better.

Sean

Sarah

All three of us (sorry for the blur and crappy colors here) Note: Sarah is in her tap costume here, but refused her wear her tap shoes.  Ha ha! I love her pose and expression here, though.  It's too cute!

Thing 1 and Thing 2....err...Sarah and Sean together

The latest here....still doing okay

A little of this, a little of that.  That's kind of how meals are right now.  Some meals she does great, others she decides she is going to throw a fit.  Usually her refusal is not self-feeding, but sometimes she takes it further.

Anyway, so we have some foods that generally don't cause a fight.  I feel like we are slowly adding to the list.  Any Chef Boyardee, peas, carrots, a mix of those two, mixed vegetables, yogurt, pudding, applesauce (any kind now, she used to only go for the flavored kind), and now peaches.  Every once in a while she gives us trouble with peaches, but she's gotten pretty accepting of them lately.  I'm working on getting her to accept more main dishes, but we'll see how that goes.  I'm thinking about re-introducing lasagna tonight, but we'll see how that goes.  I've been working with her on corn lately, and she's not accepting it well enough for me to feel comfortable putting it in a meal.

It's odd, really.  I started the corn because she's been asking about it.  She was telling me last week or so that she wanted corn and peas.  She started whining at dinner that night for them, and I wound up showing her that she was eating them in her mixed vegetables.  Seriously, I got the can out and showed her the picture.  I identified the vegetables in there for her.  I told her it had peas, carrots, corn, and celery.  There were lima beans in there too, but she doesn't really know what those are.  That made her more accepting of the mixed vegetables, and less whiny about the corn and peas.  Anyway, another time last week I caught her trying to pick the corn out of her mixed vegetables with her fingers to eat it by itself.  I looked away for a second, and there she was.  Goofball.  I told her to eat with a spoon, and she was fine.  So, I tried giving her corn in a taste session.  It was the regular kind that I tried to fork-mash.  That didn't mash very well for me.  She handled it okay for her five bites, but when I put it in a meal, she had an awful time with it.  I tried creamed corn with her last night.  She did much better, although she made quite a few faces.  I think we'll do a few more taste sessions to make sure she's okay with it before we put it in a meal.  She seems to really want to eat corn, but it's a tough food for her.  I'm sure she'll figure it out.

Saturday night was a nice night for us.  We got to go out to dinner without the kids, thanks to my sister-in-law. Sarah even ate nicely for her.  We gave her slightly easier food, and Sarah did great.  She was funny, though.  She was "coaching" her aunt.  She would tell herself to take a bite and then praise herself.  I guess she forgot that her aunt knows how to feed her.  Ha ha!  We had a nice dinner at a sushi place, and enjoyed some uninterrupted conversation.  Even if a fair amount of that conversation may have been about the kids.


Sunday, we had the ever so fun experience of Sarah deciding she was REALLY ticked off at us for not serving pudding or yogurt with her breakfast.  She sobbed and whined through the meal and refused to self feed all but the first few bites.  It was ugly.  Thankfully, she was over it by lunch and fine the rest of the day.


Sunday night, we had the family over for my birthday, and Sarah ate a bite of cake and fork-mashed the rest of it for herself.  Too funny!  She was SUPER excited to see her cousins.  She was jumping up and down with excitement when they showed up.  All the kids played pretty nicely together, and we all sat watching a ridiculously long Oriole game.  It was history in the making, though, and I'm kind of glad I watched it.  Well, as glad as someone who doesn't normally follow baseball can be.

In Sean news, I had his IEP meeting this past Wednesday.  It was really nice and I was pleased with how things went with his team.  I felt like the staff was really good about telling me the different options for classrooms for him, and we got a good one for him.  His teacher he'll have in the fall seems really nice, and we have an option to move him to a different classroom in the same school if it doesn't work out.  He finished his preschool program, although they do have a field trip tomorrow.  It's optional, but Sean and I are going.

I suppose that's about all that is going on around here.  Just busy with the usual.

Going better today, Yay!

So, after my previous rant, things seem to be better.

At breakfast, she protested self-feeding a couple bites of oatmeal.  She was watching a DVD she hadn't watched in several months and likely forgot that she owned.  Anyway, after realizing she wasn't getting her DVD unless she fed herself, she gave up the fight and fed herself the rest of the meal.

I thought we were doomed at lunch.  She saw the dishes come out and began to sob and protest.  She even threw her special plate into the sink, which thankfully is unbreakable.  She was telling me "no 'take a bite', no no no, no thank you."  Part of her protocol is prompting her with "take a bite," so she was essentially telling me she had ZERO interest in doing the protocol.  She was curled up in a ball on the kitchen floor crying her eyes out.  I even told Rob to get the camera ready because I figured we'd have something interesting to send to KKI.

I'm so glad to say I was WRONG.  I had the foresight to bring up a DVD she hadn't watched yet.  I got it from the library the other day, but she didn't know about it.  I asked her to choose her video and she happily chose the new one.  She was so interested in the new movie, she forgot about her protest.  I also gave her food she tends not to fight me about eating, and I'm sure that was a bit of a help too.  I probably could have given her some less preferred stuff too, but wasn't going to try it after that protest.  Anyway, she had 100% compliance at that meal.  Not a single protest at all.  I had to prompt her a few times because she was so engrossed in the DVD, but she self-fed every single bite without so much as a hint of negative behavior.

I didn't feed her dinner because Rob did.  That was the plan since I was at dance class and she has gotten an attitude about her.  I'm generally the one feeding her and she pitches a fit if Rob tries.  I told her before I left for dance class that Daddy was going to feed her dinner while Mommy was at dance class, and she was okay with it.  Thank heaven.  Rob said she did great.  No negative behavior at all.  He gave her easier food as well, but that's okay.  Her case manager said right now it's okay to focus on foods that give us less of a fight while they review the videos and try to work in an outpatient visit.

For now, we have the Abby in Wonderland (click the name for more info) DVD to thank for her behavior!  So glad the library had it.  I'm sure I'll be hitting up the library a lot in the near future for more DVD's for mealtime.

Tomorrow, we have a huge family event in the middle of the day, so that's pretty busy for us.  We aren't even doing her protocol at lunch because we don't want to risk any craziness in front of a ton of people, including quite a few we don't know well.  If her breakfast goes well, I may add one food to dinner that's a bit less preferred or even try a taste session of a new food and see what happens.